What People Think of You is None of Your Business

Do you worry about what people think?

Years ago I attended a college class with “Magic Silver Rose” pink streaks in my hair and copped the comment, “oh, is the circus in town?” – from a classmate who never normally even spoke to me.     

It was said in a mean way, not a jokey fun way. I really liked that pink in my hair and as a quiet shy person it took some courage for me to do something that stands out like that. 

Pink hair isn’t everyone’s cup of tea , but I liked it -and what’s it to her anyway?  Why would person make a comment like that – no good can come from such negativity.

Since then I have had many colours in my hair – mostly pink and purple and I will probably do it again.

I look back and contemplate the difference in me: Back then I was embarrassed by that comment, humiliated even.

Now, I don’t care. I just don’t care. This is me, and I like me – you don’t have to.

If you feel you need to make mean comments that’s a reflection on you, not me.

Finally, in my forties –

 I don’t care what people think.

Wow. Big achievement for someone who used to care, who used to change her actions and live her life to please others.

How did I get to this point?

Having thought about it, I have come up with:

5 ways to help you not care about what other people think:

1. Realise that not everyone is going to like you or agree with you. You don’t like everyone you meet, why should you expect everyone to embrace you?
2. Have your own opinions and express them – people may not agree with you but they will respect you for it. Often, what one person judges you for is what makes you super awesome interesting to others!
3. Like yourself – that’s what matters most. When you catch yourself using negative self talk, Stop It! Just STOP
4. Be true to yourself, listen to compliments and the ignore insults.
5. Know this: other people’s opinions can’t hurt you and you can’t control them anyway. So Just. Be. You.

You only have one crack at this life – are you going to allow someone else’s thoughts to rule you? 

xox  Julie

 PS: This video cracks me up every time – remember these two words when you let those annoying people get to you: